Dear Unbelieving Friend,

I hope it doesn’t sound strange to see those words side by side: “unbelieving” and “friend.” You don’t believe in God, and it appears your heart is closed to matters of faith. But be assured I consider you a friend.

I’m not better than you. I’m not a religious fanatic. I’m not your judge and jury. And I don’t have all the answers, but I do have some questions for you to consider.

Anyone can be against something, but what are you for? If you choose not to follow Christ, then for whom (or what) are you living?

Is it really God you reject, or an inaccurate caricature of him? Have you read the Bible carefully and pondered its message for yourself, or have you simply heard what others say about it? Rich or poor, educated or uneducated, beautiful or plain, we all face death. On what basis do you have any hope beyond the grave?

It’s easy to find fault with the church or point out difficult statements in the Bible, but skepticism alone makes a pretty weak religion. If you reject the Christian faith, what do you affirm in its place?

It’s not enough to say you’re an atheist and you don’t believe in God. I am not a Buddhist or a Muslim, but I don’t call myself an “a-Buddhist” or an “a-Muslim.” I define myself not merely by what I reject but by what I believe; in Christ I have something positive to affirm. What do you believe—and on what grounds?

Some doubters have serious intellectual reservations about God and the Scriptures, and I have my share of questions myself. But let’s be fair. Science, art, and philosophy raise questions we can’t fully answer, but that doesn’t invalidate what we know is true in those fields. Questions about God can actually lead to a strong and well-informed faith. A number of well-written books (Lee Strobel’s The Case for Faith comes to mind) offer thoughtful answers to common queries about God and the Bible. Christians don’t believe in spite of the evidence; we believe because of the evidence.

Perhaps you reject God for other reasons. Has a church or a minister let you down? Did you offer a heartfelt prayer that seemed to fall on deaf ears?

Have you considered the possibility that if you’re angry toward God, it’s subtle evidence that he actually exists? It doesn’t make sense to be angry with a non-existent being! When you struggle to square human brokenness with God’s love and justice, you’re in good company. The Psalms, the book of Job, and other parts of the Bible express similar emotions over and over again. And yet, the Bible’s final word is always one of hope, not despair.

If you distrust religious leaders, I agree that caution is justified, for a lot of harm has been done in the name of religion and even the most sincere believers are flawed. But just because some doctors make mistakes, it’s foolish to decide you will never seek the help of a doctor again. If you dismiss all Christians as hypocrites, you’re not being fair to those who are genuine. Give them a chance, and you might find some authentic believers who can help with your spiritual journey. What is the alternative—believing in yourself? If you merely trust your own intellect, abilities, and good deeds, you ultimately will be disappointed and lost because you are flawed too.

I don’t want to quarrel with you about “religion”; I’m encouraging you to believe in Jesus. Have you considered the Bible’s central theme—that the Creator himself intersected human history in a supreme act of humility and love, giving his own life so we can live? Read the Gospels (Matthew, Mark, Luke, and John) for yourself. You might be surprised how frustrated Jesus felt with the religious establishment and how much compassion he extended to those on society’s margins. His teachings are challenging, his miracles are intriguing, his death is an unparalleled demonstration of sacrificial love, and his resurrection is a beacon of hope. Jesus reveals what God is like, and it’s a portrait of amazing grace. When the apostle Peter told a crowd in Jerusalem about Jesus, they responded to God’s grace through personal repentance (deciding to turn from sin to God) and baptism (immersed in water as a humble act of submission and faith), and God gave them incredible gifts that could be yours as well: forgiveness, spiritual strength, a sense of purpose, and community with others (Acts 2:36-47).

The apostle Paul went to Athens, Greece, and explained about Christ and his resurrection. Some of his hearers “sneered, but others said, ‘We want to hear you again on this subject,” while still others “became followers of Paul and believed” (Acts 17:32-34). These three responses are typical when Christians share our faith: (1) Some mock the message and firmly refuse to believe. (2) Some remain undecided, but they’re open to further discussion. (3) Some believe in Christ. If you’ve read my letter this far, then even if you’re not ready to believe, at least you’re willing to keep exploring. Why don’t we continue the conversation? I promise not to do all of the talking.

In the meantime, when you hear a guest knocking at the entrance to your heart, please consider the possibility that it’s not just me rapping on the door. It might be the best friend you will ever encounter—the Lord himself. I pray that one day you will open the door and invite him in.

Sincerely,

Your Believing Friend |L

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November 8, 2009 - Mind your posture
October 25, 2009 - Why they go
October 18, 2009 - Shifting gears
October 11, 2009 - Preparing for D Day
October 4, 2009 - What about when the giants win?
September 27, 2009 - Little losses
September 20, 2009 - Who will attend your funeral?
September 13, 2009 - Loving our ‘children’s children’
September 6, 2009 - John the job coach
August 23, 2009 - Trying to be tall
August 16, 2009 - Are you serious?
August 9, 2009 - The benefits (and limits) of education
August 2, 2009 - Behind the snail bus
July 26, 2009 - The official scorer
July 19, 2009 - Pleasant dreams
July 12, 2009 - Watchmen on the wall
July 5, 2009 - Standing at the crossroads
June 28, 2009 - Come on down
June 21, 2009 - A godly father
June 14, 2009 - Greater things
June 7, 2009 - How can I count the ways?
May 31, 2009 - Avoiding Chapter 11
May 24, 2009 - Some things I remember
May 17, 2009 - In bad shape
May 10, 2009 - What did your mother teach you?
May 3, 2009 - Buy in
April 26, 2009 - Seven years to build it
April 19, 2009 - The flock on your block
April 12, 2009 - Untold stories
April 5, 2009 - The path strewn with palm branches
March 29, 2009 - Jesus’ small group
March 22, 2009 - One very fine meal
March 15, 2009 - How big is big enough?
March 8, 2009 - Stewing over stewardship
March 1, 2009 - Removing trust rust
February 22, 2009 - Part of God’s answer
February 15, 2009 - Putting the coin in the koinonia
February 8, 2009 - I still do
February 1, 2009 - Forward progress
January 25, 2009 - His name is . . . controversial?
January 18, 2009 - Matt
January 11, 2009 - The other 90 percent
January 4, 2009 - Growing by leaps and boundaries
December 28, 2008 - Too late for the late Mr. Lazarus?
December 21, 2008 - Christmas bows
December 14, 2008 - Good gifts for tough times
December 7, 2008 - Synoptic parents
November 30, 2008 - Fully engaged
November 23, 2008 - Abundant praise
November 16, 2008 - The cool of the day
November 9, 2008 - Faith, not fear
November 2, 2008 - Going through Samaria
October 26, 2008 - Redefining success
October 19, 2008 - The heresy of hearsay
October 12, 2008 - Here am I
October 5, 2008 - Present—and accounted for
September 28, 2008 - The beauty of baptism
September 21, 2008 - Theme songs
September 14, 2008 - Stress these things
September 7, 2008 - The older I get
August 31, 2008 - Are you ubiquitous?
August 24, 2008 - The Bible in pictures
August 17, 2008 - Watch pocket syndrome
August 10, 2008 - Seriously, we need to laugh
August 3, 2008 - Real parents
July 27, 2008 - Holes in our pockets
July 20, 2008 - Crushed
July 13, 2008 - Unloved
July 6, 2008 - Blackberry cobbler
June 29, 2008 - The strength you have
June 22, 2008 - How long does a sermon need to be?
June 8, 2008 - Someone else’s mess
June 1, 2008 - Afterward
May 25, 2008 - Diving for pearls
May 18, 2008 - There’d better be a Heaven
May 11, 2008 - Moses’ mom
May 4, 2008 - Every Christian’s job description
April 27, 2008 - Face to face
April 20, 2008 - Jesus slept
April 13, 2008 - A teacher’s helping hands
April 6, 2008 - Freeze the sleaze
March 30, 2008 - Resisting the libel of the label
March 23, 2008 - Famous last words
March 16, 2008 - The humbling, convincing truth of biblical prophecy
March 9, 2008 - Longevity—an overlooked leadership principle
March 2, 2008 - Timeless methods of money management
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February 10, 2008 - Life-changing words
February 3, 2008 - Can’t miss
January 27, 2008 - Approval ratings
January 20, 2008 - Beyond conception
January 13, 2008 - Not too safe
January 6, 2008 - Amenities
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December 23, 2007 - Big dreams in a little town
December 16, 2007 - Rest in peace
December 5, 2007 - God’s hand of mercy
December 2, 2007 - Holy humor
November 25, 2007 - So your family isn’t perfect?
November 18, 2007 - Were the whole realm of nature mine
November 11, 2007 - He knows
November 4, 2007 - Plan C
October 28, 2007 - Overcoming evil with good
October 21, 2007 - The eye of the beholder
October 14, 2007 - Airport lessons
October 7, 2007 - Wisdom on the go
September 30, 2007 - Those other songwriters
September 23, 2007 - Gathering the lame
September 16, 2007 - God, me, the world
September 9, 2007 - Look again
September 2, 2007 - Complete the work
August 26, 2007 - Annoyance, weapon, or gift?
August 19, 2007 - The fourth ‘R’
August 5, 2007 - Beyond our reach?
August 5, 2007 - Bend a bow of bronze
July 29, 2007 - You count
July 22, 2007 - Searching for buried treasure
July 15, 2007 - Free delivery
July 8, 2007 - The starting point
July 1, 2007 - Spend yourself
June 24, 2007 - Circuit-riding members
June 17, 2007 - Life sentences
June 10, 2007 - Good housekeepers
June 3, 2007 - Back rowing
May 27, 2007 - The singing voice of God
May 20, 2007 - What’s on your list?
May 13, 2007 - Multi-Operational Managers
May 6, 2007 - Whatever is best for you
April 29, 2007 - Generational accountability
April 22, 2007 - Don’t play with fire
April 15, 2007 - Love for pets (and for God’s other creatures)
April 8, 2007 - If it isn’t true
March 25, 2007 - How to help an atheist
March 18, 2007 - Don’t throw away the scale
March 11, 2007 - Under the radar
March 4, 2007 - In the hospital room
February 25, 2007 - Itching to do wrong
February 18, 2007 - Be yourself
February 11, 2007 - Working at it
February 4, 2007 - In the secret place
January 28, 2007 - Faithful with a few
January 21, 2007 - The pathway of inconvenience
January 14, 2007 - Too much attention
January 7, 2007 - Untapped capacity
December 31, 2006 - Rewriting the script
December 24, 2006 - What is the baby’s name?
December 17, 2006 - We’ll see
December 8, 2006 - Evangelism is a team effort
December 3, 2006 - They didn’t know
November 26, 2006 - Only the best
November 19, 2006 - Layer upon layer of blessing
November 12, 2006 - Cities? Who cares?
November 5, 2006 - A rare form of courage
October 29, 2006 - Can I borrow that?
October 22, 2006 - How full is your plate?
October 15, 2006 - Shouldn’t life be easier?
October 8, 2006 - Time for a check-up
October 1, 2006 - Always remember why
September 24, 2006 - Painful questions, perfect delight
September 17, 2006 - God’s picture frame
September 10, 2006 - No one is useless if he has a friend
September 3, 2006 - On the job with Jesus
August 27, 2006 - Taking pains to do what is right
August 20, 2006 - What can you learn from a child?
August 13, 2006 - Interruptions
August 6, 2006 - Doing your part in the ‘super-organism’
July 30, 2006 - Go and show, then let it go
July 23, 2006 - Harmony
July 16, 2006 - A milestone
July 9, 2006 - The glory of the extra mile
July 2, 2006 - Living in denial?
June 25, 2006 - How good and pleasant it could be!
June 18, 2006 - Advice for young leaders
June 11, 2006 - The person not to marry
June 4, 2006 - Good moments
May 28, 2006 - Empty and full
May 21, 2006 - The best thing about your body
May 14, 2006 - Tough and tender moms
April 30, 2006 - Fed up?
April 23, 2006 - Pillows and bricks
April 16, 2006 - We had hoped
April 9, 2006 - 'Fess up
April 2, 2006 - Where have all the Bibles gone?
March 26, 2006 - Old so soon
March 19, 2006 - Still in the woods
March 12, 2006 - Encourage your kids-don't exasperate them
March 5, 2006 - That empty feeling
February 26, 2006 - The church: a trouble-free zone?
February 19, 2006 - No one understands
February 12, 2006 - Clarity and courage
February 5, 2006 - What will they remember?
January 29, 2006 - The discomfort zone
January 22, 2006 - A voice like no other
January 15, 2006 - A mouth touched by the Master
January 8, 2006 - Owe no
January 1, 2006 - It just 'happened'?
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December 18, 2005 - Three stories
December 11, 2005 - Security measures
December 4, 2005 - Stay Colders
November 27, 2005 - 2055
November 20, 2005 - Living like a king
November 13, 2005 - Breaking the pavement in Ukraine
November 6, 2005 - Second stringers
October 30, 2005 - Praying in the dark
October 23, 2005 - The egg basket
October 16, 2005 - The sheep in the shadows
October 9, 2005 - Overcoming grace-resistance
October 2, 2005 - Honesty is the Lord's policy
September 25, 2005 - Kingdom kids
September 18, 2005 - Custom-made Christians
September 11, 2005 - Seeing the whole picture
August 26, 2005 - What a loss!